Watch an example of Shadow Work in this video, or read below
Do you know what this is? I'll let you know shortly, but first, we humans are afraid of things we don’t know. And so we judge them as good or bad, based on our experience and our perception. The term 'shadow' was coined by Carl Jung, who taught that we all have hidden part of ourselves that we hide from the rest of the world. Shadow work is about uncovering these parts of us that we've denied or repressed, and integrate them, so that we are whole. What you hate in others, or what you judge, is often that which you have repressed or denied in yourself. When you integrate the shadow, you are no longer triggered, and you live from a space of choice, rather than reaction. Here’s an example: Let’s say you are behind someone in traffic who’s driving slowly, and then turns without indicating. It drives you mad and you land up yelling in your car. A few more incidents like that on your way to work, and you are wound-up, stress-out and irritated when you get to your destination. The driver triggered a response in you because you may have had a thought like this “he’s so inconsiderate”, or “he thinks he owns the road”, or “I would never drive like that”. What you’ve done is project behaviour (that you've denied about yourself) onto the driver. You don’t allow yourself to be inconsiderate, own the road, or drive that way, so dare dare he. However, we are both good and bad, considerate and inconsiderate. When someone else does something that you don’t allow yourself to do, you get mad. “Why is he allowed to behave badly, when I can't?” The truth is, you can if you wanted. You just choose not to. When you admit that you've driven badly sometimes too, then you own your shadow. That’s all that shadow work is. Going within and owning your own 'faults'. Let’s give you another, but more painful, example: Let’s say you're in a relationship and your partner is cheating on you. You might say “I’ll never cheat, I am loyal”. To the logical mind, and the outside observer, you're not cheating. You choose not to be seeing other people. But it’s not always about the other person. You could also be cheating yourself. You are giving all your energy to someone else instead of to yourself. The shadow can also take different forms, and may not be exactly like-with-like. Cheating can also take different forms. You might find that you're not honest in other ways. You say you are happy, but inside you are miserable. You show a smiling and obliging side, never letting your guard down, but you are not obliging in your mind. You're hiding an aspect of yourself from others, and until you own it, you will keep ‘cheating’ yourself. To get back to the photo. Some people say that shadow work is evil. It's simply owning our dark side, which everyone has. The irony is that the more you own your shadow, the lighter you become. It's like having a garden filled with weeds. If you were to close the curtains, you won't see the weeds, but that doesn't mean they'll go away. In fact, they'll take over and eventually kill every good plant in your garden. When you pull out the weeds, you're allowing your garden to grow, and are making space for beautiful flowers. The picture is of a pentacle which you hang outside a door for protection. It's made to protect the people that live there. A pentacle is the opposite of Baphomet, which is the Satanic symbol. Everything in Satanism is an inversion of what is good and pure and wholesome. You can tell the difference, because the pentacle has the point at the top, and two points at the bottom. The satanic symbol has two points at the top, to represent horns, and one point at the bottom to represent the chin. So the question is, are you looking at it in fear, or understanding and an open mind? I'm not here to tell you what to believe in, only what exists in the world today. Till then, Soul Seeker Natasha "Lightbearer" Williams PS. There is a lot more to shadow work, so keep following as I share more. PPS. If you want to integrate your shadow and heal your relationships, your health, your finances and be more present, then sign up for my Shadow Work Course and Journal. You'll have access to my powerful framework to identify and heal the wounded parts of you, so that you free up energy to live a lighter, more joyful life. The course is launching mid November 2023!
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I remember standing in the garden like it was yesterday. I was standing next to someone who I really looked up to. I was 13, she was 15.
As I spoke, instead of replying to me she almost spat at me “get away from me, you are disgusting! I can't stand the sight of you! No one will ever love you!” Her words punched me in the gut. I was in shock, and my head was reeling in confusion. I never did anything to her, and would never dream of saying such a thing to anyone. Those words stayed with me, and little did I realize how much they would impact my life. As is the way of trauma, you will keep repeating similar patterns until you heal the original wound.
I got involved in relationships with men who never truly loved me. I had ‘friends’ who betrayed me. Business partners who stole from me. I married narcissistic men who cheated on me and abused me emotionally.
My second husband told me that no one will ever love a successful and independent woman (which I was), so of course, I created the scenario again. This time to prove that no matter how good I am, how hard I work, how much I do, I can never be loved. I was willing to sacrifice myself, and my needs, just to be loved. I kept being offered a chance to change my belief about myself, but it’s only when I had to make a choice between staying in a toxic relationship or choosing myself, that I realized that I’d allowed my self-worth to be determined by a 15-year-old, who actually hated herself. Our words have the power to start wars or end them. Couple words with emotion and you create a program in your subconscious mind that will keep running and sabotaging your life.
Masaru Emoto was a Japanese alternative health practitioner who studied water crystals that came from various sources. Caves, lakes, muddied water, dirty rivers and water with words labelled onto them.
He found that the water retains the emotion of the words spoken to it. Positive words formed beautiful, intricate patterns, while hateful, negative words and sounds created distortions and no pattern. If our bodies are 60% water then how you speak to it, will determine whether you flourish or get disease. Your thoughts determine your emotions, which determine what your body reflects back to you. If you want to heal, you need to notice what you are saying to yourself, and start changing the program. You will become what you think and tell yourself you are. If you keep telling yourself how old you are becoming, or how fat, or forgetful, you are loading it onto your system and your body will act it out. Start noticing where you are running yourself down, where you judge or criticise yourself, and be kind to yourself. The world is a hard enough place to live in as it is. Till then Beautiful Being, Natasha “I Am Loved” Williams
My client came to see me because of huge trauma. She has been battling to make ends meet. Her (now ex-) husband won the lotto in 2020. She’s had to move into his apartment and even get permission to bring furniture in and out. She’s found out that he’s been switching off her electricity, and sabotaging her business, and is controlling her financially in every way he can. The funny thing is that she is the one who drew the lucky ticket. She works hard, and makes everyone else lucky, but when it comes to money, she’s never able to keep it. If this is something you’ve experienced, then read on.
I’m going to share with you, why you have money blocks and what you can do to overcome them.
We’re continuing from last week, in case you didn’t read the post, all you need is your notebook and a pen. Are some people special? If working makes you money, then working hard should make you a lot of money. Except it doesn’t. It just gives you bony fingers and a sore back. You start hating life. Hating the struggle. Comparing yourself to wealthy people makes you feel worse. You start beating yourself up for not being smart enough, working hard enough, not having enough education, and the list goes on. The truth is that wealthy people come from all walks of life. Some were born into money, but most weren’t. They have been salespeople, homeless, left school early, and A+ achievers. The difference between them and you is what’s between their ears. They overcame their blocks. They moved past the external reasons that were holding them back, and dealt with the internal reasons. Rather than blame the government, tax, your ex, the weather, you can go inside and see what the real block is. Maybe it’s not feeling worthy, or feeling like an imposter. Let me list a few big reasons for money blocks: Financial Thermostat The subconscious mind has a financial thermostat. You can make a lot of money, but unless you raise the thermostat, you land up losing it again. You will find that you will have a consistent pattern of gaining and losing money, or of always running out before the end of the month. It may be just your pattern, but you will probably see that it’s in your family too. Family Patterns There’s a morphogenetic field that surrounds a family. This is an energy field that every family member taps into, just like a flock of birds that all travel together in synchrony. Each family member will play a role, and the children often take on the burdens of the elders in honour and solidarity of their struggle. The problem is that it doesn’t help anyone, and keeps the cycle perpetuating. Past Lives You may have had many lives of poverty, and been born into poverty again, in order to finally clear the cycle. You are getting another chance to heal your karma, rather than feel like it’s the role you need to keep playing forever. Vows You may have made a vow in a past life, or early in this life that money causes pain, and you therefore won’t make a lot of money. Or made a vow of poverty as a monk or a nun. You can clear the vows, knowing that at the time you made them, it benefitted you and they have served their purpose. Past experiences You may have experienced debt, bankruptcy, betrayal, theft or another financial loss, and are too afraid to have money again, or believe that it's impossible to become rich, because your subconscious mind has connected it to pain and hopelessness. “What's the point if I’m going to lose it again?” Beliefs You may have heard your family say things like ‘Money is the root of all evil’, or ‘they are stinking rich’. Your subconscious mind internalizes these beliefs and takes them as true. Persecution Imprint You may have been persecuted in another life or in this life for having money, joy or luck. Because it ended in misery, you decided to hide your light in order to be safe. If you don’t have money, then no one can take it from you. However, hiding your light serves no one, and it’s time to heal that imprint. There are many other reasons like guilt, fear of success, fear of failure, so let's do some healing. Internal Healing In your journal, make 5 columns and write headings for each: Column 1: Money incident
For example : Instead of seeing everything that happened in your life as something that happened to you, see what you can learn from it. It’s on your way, not in your way. The time you spend with yourself might save you countless hours of anxiety, stress and hopelessness.
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Till then, Conscious Creator Natasha “I’ve Learnt The Lesson” Williams Are you ready to go on a journey with me? We're going where FEW PEOPLE HAVE DARED TO TREAD. We’re going to secret, dark places, undiscovered by others, that only you know about. It’s going to be painful, scary, and lonely at times, but the reward is worth it 💎💎 When you collect the parts of you that have been hidden and buried beneath heaps of dust, you’re going to find what you’ve been looking for outside in the world, but you actually had all along – YOURSELF. To embark on your journey, you need to pack for the trip. For this journey you are being allocated your weapons: a journal and a pen. You get to decide what size, what colour, what thickness. You need to keep these with you at all times. You will be delving deep into your inner world, and things come up when you least expect it. [If you haven’t downloaded the free Heal through Journaling PDF, then go ahead and do it now. Once you have downloaded it and you have your journal ready, then read on.] Awesome!
Let's start on your journey into your sou and your deep pains and longings. Your journal is going to become your best friend, your secret keeper, and your shoulder to cry on. It’s not going to judge you, and it can carry the weight of the world. 📓🖋️ It’s time to get raw and real, and be deeply honest with yourself. You get to decide how it looks, and what you share. Decide that if this journal holds the pages to your life, what do you want in it? What are the pains you are struggling with? What are the dragons you need to slay? Who are the players in your story? How do you want it to end? We're going to go deeper next time, but for now, decide WHAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB you have for your life right now. Is it healing your relationship? Is it your health? Is it your finances? What else? Is it all of the above? We’re going to get to know your dragons next time, but first you need to strap on your boots, pack your weapons, and chart your course. Till then, Brave Soul, Natasha “Your Guide” Williams |
AuthorNatasha Williams is a spiritual warrior. She has written 6 books, pioneered a fitness movement and is a master life and transformation coach. She lives in South Africa, but has clients worldwide. Archives
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